Give Me 3 Minutes and I’ll Make You a Better Lover

Romance is dying out as it seems people are putting more work in proving to the world that they are in a loving relationship than in putting the real love in the relationship. Relationships have been reduced to expressive emojis, occasional phone or video calls, looking good for the gram and so on. Feelings alone don’t cut it because they have the tendency to fade with time if not fanned with the right tools.

Fortunately, old, faithful romantics like myself still exist. *bows as audience applause* Thank you, you really didn’t have to.  Anyways, as I was saying, If you want to take your relationship from basic to the next level, stay with me as I’d be giving you a few tips from my bank of experience on how to add or keep the spark in your relationship alive.

Write them a heartfelt letter


You don’t need to be Shakespeare to achieve this. All you need is a pen and a piece of paper to pour out your heart to the love of your life. It doesn’t have to be lengthy. It also doesn’t have to be a mushy, mushy letter all the time. You could use it as a medium of apology or to let them know they did something that hurt you. Fold it nicely and tuck in a fancy envelope. Have it delivered or do it personally. It works like magic.

Write them short notes


These are like mini love letters. Tell her how her smile brightens up the room. Tell him how you love the way his beard tickles your skin. Tell them you love the way their scent lingers on your palm long after they are gone. KISS. Keep It Short and Simple. You can sneak this into her purse, his wallet, stick it on their dashboard, put it in their diary etc. Just make sure it is somewhere they can easily see it.

Get them flowers


I found myself in an environment where they were so many flowers, various kinds. On my way back from work or from a stroll, I’d pick up some flowers, trim them nice and package it sometimes with a note. You don’t have to break the bank to do this. It tells your partner that you’ve had them in mind. If you don’t have natural flowers around you, you can order from time to time. Ladies, you can do this for your man. Guys, don’t be ashamed to get flowers from your woman. Come on people, don’t be so boring.

Paper or Video scrap book


Pick a few of your pictures together, get them printed and make a scrap book. Include some notes, writings, pictures, drawings, the ticket of the first movie you saw together, etc. Make it colorful. You can always go online to find out how to do this. On the alternative, you can make a video collection of your pictures, use their favorite music in the background and send it to them. Imagine your significant other receiving this at a moment they are stressed out. They will just keep falling in love with you yakata.

Open when letters


This is a series of instructions that come in an envelope. For example, “Open when you are sad”, “Open when you are lonely”, “Open when you need a reassurance that I love you”, “Open on valentines day” etc. They could be notes or things you want your partner to do. With this, they will always have you in mind especially if they happen to be travelling to a distant place. You can have as many “open when” letters as you want. Google this for countless “open when” ideas.

Send a voice note


We live in crazy times. Everything is moving at a fast pace and we can get so caught in our daily activities that by the time you get home for the day, you’d be too tired to play the romantic partner. So, in the middle of the day, record a voice note, letting you partner know you are thinking about them and you are also checking up on them. No one wants to feel abandoned or forgotten. Don’t letter stray bullet hit your partner o. Everyone na shooter now.

Give them gifts


You don’t have to be a Davido to give your bae some assurance. Start small, work with your budget. Know what they would appreciate and go for it. Even if its #100 cookies, buy it. It all boils down to one thing; “I was thinking of you.” Chai. Love nwantiti.

Go the extra mile


I once dated a guy whose name I wrote in fancy stone on my phone. Don’t laugh…please. *rme* Do something really extra for them. Like have lunch delivered to them at work either by you or a vendor, go see a football match with him even though you’d rather watch chick flicks, spend time with her in the salon, throw a surprise dinner, download that album they have been looking forward to etc. Think of something creative that you know would blow their minds.

Have some fun


Go dance to some jazz music. Visit the karaoke bar and sing till everyone there goes deaf. Take a walk to a park or the beach. See a movie. See some art. Go for exhibits. Attend events with each other. Play their favorite song with an instrument you play. Go to the gym together. Whatever you do, always find the time to bond.

I love you


Never stop using these three magical words. Say it and mean it.

So ladies and gentlemen, stop using “I’m not a romantic person” as an excuse. Nobody was born with the spirit of romance. If you want to have a healthy relationship, you have to be intentional about making your partner happy. If you haven’t started, start now. By the time you make them a priority; their love tank will be constantly topped. Everyone is happy. The End.

If you are a hopeless romantic like myself, please gather around for a selfie. *clicks* Thank you. And don’t forget to share from your well of experience too. I need to add to mine. hehehe.

9 thoughts on “Give Me 3 Minutes and I’ll Make You a Better Lover

  1. oluwatunbi says:

    Whao… Though we are not always perfect but we grow in desire to along the line. Writing was not my thing until I met someone dear to my heart. It became a natural thing for me to do that even whenever I pick a pen without any premeditation I write my heart out. I do told her that I don’t read over messages before sending to her because I write myself to her always. Not reading over the messages was my way of telling her that she should accept me as I am. Thanks for this Arike.


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